I've just finished a vacation, which meant two weeks with no urgent notifications or demands to clear my inbox. It should have been bliss, but it hasn't been easy this time.
This time, catching up with many of the people I love and celebrating Thanksgiving hasn't been the energizing, mood-boosting lift I wanted. I hoped for vacation to signal the end of a hard road, but instead it simply illuminated how far there is to go.
At the end of Thanksgiving Day I wrote the words, 'Sometimes because my dreams, hopes and desires are so big, it's easier to forget how much I have to be thankful for.' And I do have much to be thankful forâa good job, great friends in many parts of the world, the ability to move freely and work on many things I'm passionate about.
The rub is, I've spent the last year and the year before that and even the year before that letting go of many dreams, hopes and desires.
The pain of letting go
I could write this all poetically but it would take too much time. Here are the bullet points that will get me to the point:
- Letting go of hopes and dreams is surrendering your desire to get what you want
- It means surrendering your desire for control as well as the false ideas you hold about power and control
- There is nothing easy about this task of emotional and neural reprogramming, because you must learn new ways of 'being' over and over
- In the process of surrendering your sense of how things ought to be (control) you realise how much space it consumed
- This space becomes apparent when you are left with a corresponding emptiness
Enter the Advent
So that is where I find myself, at the end of the dark road peering into even darker emptiness. Enter the Advent season. Into the darkest of moments, when all I want is the assurance it will all be ok, that my feeble little self won't be left behind and most importantly, that there is enough love for me in the world to fill the emptinessâenter the Advent.
Dependence on God is not a strong enough description of the answer to my emptiness. The answer is an equally deep need of God. Surrendering control and that aching emptiness is in fact creating capacity and openhandedness to receive God's answers in the midst of my emptiness.
Enter the Advent. How desperately I need the hope of the incarnated God made flesh with us, made real. I so desperately need the flesh-and-blood God to remind me that I am part of the oneness of humanity.
Hope wasn't made for me alone, but for us. How desperately I need the Advent to reorient me to the love of God made flesh for all of humanity, not just myself.
Enter the Advent, where I have opportunity to turn my eyes away from the darkness of my own emptiness and to the light that is coming to shine in all our emptiness.
Tash McGill wants to change the world by helping people to think differently. Sometimes described as courageous by her friends, she frequently says aloud what no-one else is brave or stupid enough to say. She also finds writing third-person biographies uncomfortable.
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