Can you recall a time when you were full of confidence that something would happen... but then it didn't?
Recently I had my first suspicious mole removed. The doctor said it was mainly a precaution but that the mole did indicate some of the warning signs. I felt healthy and was feeling fairly confident that the results would be okay.
About a week later I was called into see the doctor again. More needed to be removed.
There are experiences in life that remind us how uncertain life is. Most of the time I feel like everything is going all right. These are the times when I make long term plans, get frustrated at the little things and forget to show people that I care about them.
But then something happens to unnerve us - a reminder that life is short and that there are no guarantees about tomorrow. Like the time I was nearly hit by a speeding car. Or the time my dad was diagnosed with cancer in the brain. Or when a close friend lost their baby.
A common experience for many of us at the moment is finding ourselves in lockdown all of a sudden. It makes me realise how quickly our plans can be thrown into chaos.
Hope beyond our circumstances
How can we keep from recoiling in fear or falling into negative thinking when these things happen?
It's times like these when we need hope in something beyond our circumstances.
Firstly, I think that I need these reality checks. They teach me to be wise. And humble. They teach me how to be kind. In a strange way, though I never want difficult things to happen, when they do, I am okay with it, because I know they can help me to see things as they really are. They make me a better person.
And they cause me to reach out to God. When we think we've got it all together, we don't know that we need God. We don't think we need outside assistance.
A fragile gift
But when things go bad, and I see things I held dear fading away, I'm forced to admit that my life is a fragile gift and that crying out to God for help would be a good idea.
I look at my newborn daughter and think about how dependent she is on her parents. She’s not afraid to let us know when she needs something!
I was reading my Bible in James chapter 4 today and it talked about being humble before God and drawing close to Him. It talked about God answering our sincere prayers and lifting us up when we're down.
It's easy to get distracted by things that don't matter. To make a big deal out of what won't last. To be over-confident about what we can't control. But life's setbacks are teaching me that when I reach out to God in my low moments, He is able to lift me out and bring me to a much better place than I was before.
Tom Anderson is pioneering www.haventogether.com, an online church plant supported by his in-person church, Catalyst, Ipswich. He has a young, growing family and enjoys playing backyard sport. Tom is a keen long-distance runner, averaging 21km each day last year. He has worked as a teacher for eleven years and enjoys perfecting a flat white on his home espresso machine. Tom would welcome a visit for a coffee some time… or an online catch-up via Zoom. See the Haven Together website to get in touch.