An interesting question for an Australian male is the difference between a friend and a mate? This came up in the pre interview discussion in a recent Australian Missionary News IPTV interview with the World Circuit Professional Surfing Chaplain Abe Andrews .
Abe Andrews made the point that whereas the men on the surfing circuit are not in the habit of 'revealing all' as a valuable and necessary emotional relief mechanism, his wife Lisa ministering to the wives and partners and families, found just the opposite.
Australian men have lots of mates. It is an inclusive and exclusive term which can be seen most clearly on either the battle field or the sports field. A mate is everyone on your side, a mate is also someone to whom you are very close. In extreme circumstances, your mate is the one you are holding as he dies in your arms.
A friend on the other hand has hallmarks of the latter illustration, but it functions on a different level again. This is a longer term bonding, where the friendship is deeper and has roots that one can never quite articulate.
We relocated to Tweed Heads in 2006 to establish the 'Basil Sellers Tweed' respite ministry for the six AIS sports units in south east Queensland. This was a replication of the facility they had co-ordinated at Moruya.
Ian and Tracey Carlson and their family had moved to the Tweed coast a few months earlier, with Ian’s appointment as a Deputy School Principal. They were worshipping at the Banora Point Baptist Church, as we were. Our families became firm friends.
It was not too long afterwards that Mr Carlson, having been stung by a bee, felt a strange lump in his under-arm and was eventually diagnosed with Lymphoma.
After many tests and diagnoses which extended over several months, the Education Department found the medical evidence undisputed, and came to a decision to medically retire Mr Carlson.
Since Ian Carlson was left with a considerable amount of time on his hands, I enquired whether he might be available to assist in the ‘Basil Sellers Tweed’ respite ministry.
Ian Carlson was a cricket fanatic; he played cricket for many years to representative level in the Riverina region and coached junior school cricket teams to much acclaim. One of the tasks I had in mind was for him to be my driver when I visited the AIS cricket units.
Over the years Ian became my driver; not only to the cricket units, but to each of the six south east Queensland AIS sport units where he was introduced to sports personalities involved in squash, diving, softball, flatwater canoe and cricket. Everyone came to know the situation and welcomed Ian warmly. As well as these local tours, he also accompanied me on interstate missions.
We developed a schedule whereby we'd share the driving, there was a concern over Ian's health. However, on a brighter note, on many occasions Ian and I have said to those around us that the Lord sent each of us to the other.
Over a six month period in middle of 2008 Ian Carlson has undertaken the six stages of chemotherapy, with ambivalent results. Because of this, he missed out on a planned family international mission trip to Fiji as an 'Emmaus Walk' delegate.
Ian Carlson decided to utilise that unused air ticket and take a little time away in early December 2008 to New Zealand. So it was that as his friend, it became my privilege to accompany him on his own mission.
Yes, friends are more than ……
Dr Mark Tronson is a Baptist minister (retired) who served as the Australian cricket team chaplain for 17 years (2000 ret) and established Life After Cricket in 2001. He was recognised by the Olympic Ministry Medal in 2009 presented by Carl Lewis Olympian of the Century. He mentors young writers and has written 24 books, and enjoys writing. He is married to Delma, with four adult children and grand-children. Dr Tronson writes a daily article for Christian Today Australia (since 2008) and in November 2016 established Christian Today New Zealand.
Mark Tronson's archive of articles can be viewed at http://www.pressserviceinternational.org/mark-tronson.html
Dr Mark Tronson is a Baptist minister (retired) who served as the Australian cricket team chaplain for 17 years (2000 ret) and established Life After Cricket in 2001. He was recognised by the Olympic Ministry Medal in 2009 presented by Carl Lewis Olympian of the Century. He mentors young writers and has written 25 books, and enjoys writing. Dr Tronson writes a daily article for Christian Today Australia (since 2008) and in November 2016 established Christian Today New Zealand. Dr Mark Tronson’s Press Service International in 2019 was awarded ‘The Gutenberg’ - the Australasian Religious Press Association’s premier award. In September 2020 Summer Moore presented her commission portrait of Dr Mark Tronson holding the Gutenberg plaque. He and David Chang editor of Christian Today together bought the young writer ministry into fruition in 2009. In 2011 Mark established Laguna Quays Respite (Whitsundays) for missionary respite and replicated at Aldinga Beach 2016 (Adelaide) and Greens Beach Bass Straight (TAS). His ministry is honoured all these years by Christian philanthropist Mr Basil Sellers AM. He is married to Delma (44 years), with four adult married children and grand-children.
Mark Tronson's archive of articles can be viewed at https://www.pressserviceinternational.org/dr-mark-t.html