Delma Tronson creating hand crafted cards for ministry
The cinema has presented the Parson’s wife as the all conquering little woman of the Rectory, the calmer of troubled waters, a murderess, and the scarlet woman, but none of these descriptions truly represents the true-blue parson’s wife of the twenty first century.
Reverend Dr Rowland Croucher along with the Christian Research Association and others, have entertained a range of surveys over this past ten years in an attempt to articulate the modern parson’s wife and who she is.
Perhaps the most interesting aspect of all this are the responses themselves by parson’s wives – using the term ‘parsons wife’ in generic sense of all those whose partners and in many cases with the Pentecostals, themselves, in ministry roles.
Their perceptions of becoming a parson’s wife and the reality years later of being a parson’s wife reveals a great gulf between some kind of mythical role - full of pastoral adventure, evangelism and morning teas to that of a frustration, annoyance, trauma, drama and a philosophical separation into the professional world.
Whatever else might be said, it is true today that whatever the parson’s wife personal goals, say even thirty years ago, is now totally different. Even the notion of the parson’s wife today is a misnomer.
Mainstream Protestantism has witnessed the greatest change in that these women are professionals in their own right, whether they be school teachers, nurses, doctors, solicitors, accountants, in marketing and advertising, whatever.
They do not see themselves primarily as the wife of the parson’s ministry just as other wives in the congregation do not see themselves as being somehow attached to their respective husband’s careers.
Pentecostals for the most part are in a different category as both the husband and the wife make up the “ministry team” and both are intimately involved with every aspect of the running of the congregation’s ministry activities. The Salvation Army is much the same.
In the local area where we live, these modern scenarios are there for all to see. One of the clergy’s wife is a nurse at the local hospital, another is a school teacher, another works from home, the Pentecostal congregations have their husband and wife teams but none have a situation of either the cinematic version of the parson’s wife or that of the parson’s wife of 30-40 years ago.
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What has bought about this change?
Expectations are different today. As so many women in congregations are professionals in their own right, it would seem almost an anomaly for the parson’s wife to be otherwise.
Children have not altered this change of direction, as parson’s wives face the same kinds of issues of modern family living as do the women (read families) in their congregation.
Congregational leadership recognise the financial demands of the modern world and pay parson’s accordingly and the partner’s (read parson’s wife) adds to that family income as to their own partners in their situations. This applies equally if the woman is the parson and her husband the partner.
Another anomaly to all this is that of the smaller congregation and many in rural centres. Many smaller congregations are dominated by an older age group who have little associations with this frightening modern world and their expectations remain in decades past.
I can point to three areas where the modern parson’s wife can be a huge asset to her husband. These are the same issues forty years ago, a hundred years ago or a thousand years ago.
First, being supportive and encouraging to her parson husband. He needs her support. She will never know how important this is to his ministry and his heart.
Second, being a good listener to her husband. He needs a trusted sounding board for all manner of things going on in his own heart and in the life of the people in his congregation.
Third, maintaining the romance that belonged to them (and them alone) prior to marriage and this is perhaps the parson’s wife’s greatest role for if this is ticking along nicely then the husband has both a foundation from which many other things can goodly develop.
The old adage that the parson’s wife makes or breaks a ministry is as true today as it has always been.
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Dr Mark Tronson is a Baptist minister (retired) who served as the Australian cricket team chaplain for 17 years (2000 ret) and established Life After Cricket in 2001. He was recognised by the Olympic Ministry Medal in 2009 presented by Carl Lewis Olympian of the Century. He mentors young writers and has written 24 books, and enjoys writing. He is married to Delma, with four adult children and grand-children. Dr Tronson writes a daily article for Christian Today Australia (since 2008) and in November 2016 established Christian Today New Zealand.
Mark Tronson's archive of articles can be viewed at
Dr Mark Tronson is a Baptist minister (retired) who served as the Australian cricket team chaplain for 17 years (2000 ret) and established Life After Cricket in 2001. He was recognised by the Olympic Ministry Medal in 2009 presented by Carl Lewis Olympian of the Century. He mentors young writers and has written 25 books, and enjoys writing. Dr Tronson writes a daily article for Christian Today Australia (since 2008) and in November 2016 established Christian Today New Zealand. Dr Mark Tronson’s Press Service International in 2019 was awarded ‘The Gutenberg’ - the Australasian Religious Press Association’s premier award. In September 2020 Summer Moore presented her commission portrait of Dr Mark Tronson holding the Gutenberg plaque. He and David Chang editor of Christian Today together bought the young writer ministry into fruition in 2009. In 2011 Mark established Laguna Quays Respite (Whitsundays) for missionary respite and replicated at Aldinga Beach 2016 (Adelaide) and Greens Beach Bass Straight (TAS). His ministry is honoured all these years by Christian philanthropist Mr Basil Sellers AM. He is married to Delma (44 years), with four adult married children and grand-children.
Mark Tronson's archive of articles can be viewed at https://www.pressserviceinternational.org/dr-mark-t.html